Why You Need To Spend More Time With Your Family Members

Have you lost hope on connecting with your family? Do you just want to live your life till you can “escape” from them? Well, you don’t have to do that. There are ways you can build quality relationships with your family members.

Personally, 2020 has been a great year with my family members. I mean, we were practically brought together by the pandemic and I enjoyed their company immensely. We had fun, had deep conversations, argued and bonded on a more intimate level.

However, this time was a real eye-opener for me. I saw genuine reasons why we need to spend more quality time with our family members and I'm here to share them with you. Read to the end to discover what you've been missing all this while!

The truth is that you are stuck with your family members for a considerable part of your life. As much as you might want them to disappear sometimes, they are not going anywhere. So the earlier you start enjoying their company and putting effort into the relationship, the better for you.

Regardless of how low you think the relationship has sunk, if you determine in your heart to grow it, you'll reap the proceeds. Instead of merely coexisting with your family in the same house, you might as well start trying to enjoy their company. And believe me, there's a whole lot you can enjoy if you focus on the good parts.

The kind of sacrifices that your family members would make for you, no one else can sacrifice that much. Some of them can practically put their own life on hold just for you. When you are going through your lowest moments in life and you believe that all hope is lost, they'll catch you and help you through your darkest moments.

Also, because they are stuck with you and they love you, your family would stay by your side even when the entire world has given up on you. They feel your pain, see your struggles and they'll stay to carefully nurture you till you feel whole again. That's what family is all about.

The first place where I got to discover my character flaws and my strengths was at home. I remember my brother telling me that I was too noisy and that I couldn't live in an estate (I'm still noisy though). One of my Dad's lines for me while growing up was that I can talk from nineteen to dozen (that means I talk too much).

Your family has seen you at your best and worst moments, some of them can even predict your reaction to certain situations. They will tell you things about yourself that you do not like to hear. Truthfully, you need the truths in order to improve on your character especially the truths that are said with love and not to just put you down.

Tips On How To Improve Your Relationship With Family

Families vary in how they are structured. However, there are certain techniques that work especially for youths as we tend to withdraw from our parents as we grow.

It is possible for you to live in the same house with someone and still not communicate with them emphatically. I had a doctorate degree in that aspect until I started to work on it. Merely going on errands or asking for resources like money does not count as communication.

You would be shocked at how much your family members have to say when you start to really communicate with them. Apart from that, you would also learn from their experiences, knowledge and general view about life. Sincerely, you don't know everything but you have a treasure bank in your home, listen to them.

I can't count how many problems my family members have helped me solve this year, especially my elder sister (I was stuck with her). I used to think I knew plenty things but it won't hurt to learn of better ways to approach life especially from your own house.

This is the hardest part to do for your family members. Speaking their love language is difficult because we often feel like they are disturbing our lives by always making demands or needing something. However, if you want to improve your relationship with them, you need to do what makes them feel loved and cherished.

You know your mum loves gifts, buy her something the next time you go out. You know your Dad loves it when you watch football with him, don’t watch the next match alone, join him. Your sister loves compliments, the next time she looks gorgeous, tell her. Let them know that you love them.

It’s easy to feel all alone while running a business, following your passion or taking certain steps in your life when nobody is supporting you. You need to make sure none of your family members feel that way by offering them your support. Regardless of whether you are a parent, a child or a sibling, it is your responsibility to support your family members when they are making solid moves in their lives.

Starting something new or taking certain steps is usually scary and uncertain for anyone to walk through. However, with your help, your family members can feel little fear because there's a solid support system that is backing them up which is you. When they have you beside them, they feel like they can fly.

Conclusion

You will not be stuck with your family members forever, they’ll get married, some would move away or you might even move away. However, the time that you spend with them now by being intentional about communicating and loving them would determine how well the relationship would turn out in the nearest future.

The right way to approach this is by first focusing on yourself rather than your environment or the behaviour of some of your family members you do not like. Take responsibility for your own actions and inactions concerning your relationship with family. Then, all other factors would come around. Remember that everyone responds to genuine love.

Don’t forget to leave your thoughts in the comment section. I want to hear what you have to say about your own experiences.

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